When did hanging out with your friends become so much work? Marriage, kids, careers and guarding our own time all shrink the circle. We get honest about the friendships that faded, what actually counts as a friend, and the uncomfortable part: sometimes we're the reason.
Chapters
- 0:00Do men over 30 need friends?
- 1:42What actually counts as a friend
- 5:48Friends you can be vulnerable with
- 10:53Social media and getting left out
- 12:15How marriage and kids change friendships
- 14:19Is your spouse your best friend?
- 18:53Introverts and social events
- 21:06Hard times show who your friends are
- 23:14Low-maintenance friends
- 26:14When effort and inconvenience win
- 32:13Being the reason friendships fade
- 37:48Mental health and two-way friendships
- 42:02Final thoughts
Your turn
After 30, how many close friends do you actually have?
Answer in the YouTube comments, or send us your own question for a future episode.
Companion post
The Friendship Audit: Who Would You Call at 2am?
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